Self Assessment

This questionnaire can help you determine if SA might be right for you. Answer honestly - only you will see the results.

Sexual Addiction Self-Assessment

The following questions are based on the experiences of thousands of sexaholics in recovery. Please answer each question with a simple "Yes" or "No" based on your personal experience.

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Question 1

Have you ever thought you needed help for your sexual thinking or behavior?

Question 2

That you'd be better off if you didn't keep "giving in"?

Question 3

That sex or stimuli are controlling you?

Question 4

Have you ever tried to stop or limit doing what you felt was wrong in your sexual behavior?

Question 5

Do you resort to sex to escape, relieve anxiety, or because you can't cope?

Question 6

Do you feel guilt, remorse or depression afterward?

Question 7

Has your pursuit of sex become more compulsive?

Question 8

Does it interfere with relations with your spouse?

Question 9

Do you have to resort to images or memories during sex?

Question 10

Does an irresistible impulse arise when the other party makes the overtures or sex is offered?

Question 11

Do you keep going from one "relationship" or lover to another?

Question 12

Do you feel the "right relationship" would help you stop lusting, masturbating, or being so promiscuous?

Question 13

Do you have a destructive need—a desperate sexual or emotional need for someone?

Question 14

Does pursuit of sex make you careless for yourself or the welfare of your family or others?

Question 15

Has your effectiveness or concentration decreased as sex has become more compulsive?

Question 16

Do you lose time from work for it?

Question 17

Do you turn to a lower environment when pursuing sex?

Question 18

Do you want to get away from the sex partner as soon as possible after the act?

Question 19

Although your spouse is sexually compatible, do you still masturbate or have sex with others?

Question 20

Have you ever been arrested for a sex-related offense?

Am I a Sexaholic?

Only you can answer this question. Here are some questions to consider.

Many of us have asked ourselves this question. The following questions may help you determine if SA is right for you. Be honest with yourself as you consider each one:

Control & Consequences

  • Do you keep going back to the same sexual behaviors even when you promise yourself you won't?
  • Do you find yourself unable to stop despite negative consequences?
  • Has your sexual behavior caused problems in your relationships, work, or daily life?
  • Do you spend excessive time in sexual fantasy, planning, or activity?

Secrecy & Shame

  • Do you lead a double life to hide your sexual behaviors?
  • Do you feel shame, guilt, or despair about your sexual behavior?
  • Are you afraid of what others would think if they knew about your sexual activities?
  • Do you lie to cover up your sexual behavior?

Escalation & Isolation

  • Do you find yourself needing more intense or frequent sexual activity to feel satisfied?
  • Has your sexual behavior become more extreme or risky over time?
  • Do you isolate yourself to engage in sexual behavior?
  • Do you feel hopeless about ever being able to change?

If you answered "yes" to several of these questions, you may benefit from attending SA meetings. Remember, you don't have to have all the answers today - just a willingness to explore whether SA might help you.